It’s not a competition!

I don’t know exactly where or why this all started. I imagine perhaps it’s an animal response from our cave men days where it’s in our nature to compete in order to survive. Maybe we need to be the best in order to not prove that we are higher up than all others so that we’re higher in the pecking order? I don’t know. All I know is it’s exhausting. It’s ...

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F(#@*& the past few weeks!

I know I’m not perfect but, I sure as heck do try to be most of the time. I hate failing. I hate doing wrong. And I sure as heck hate feeling like I’m not good enough. I wrote about not feeling good enough a wee while back (you can read that here). So, let me tell you, these past few weeks have been absolutely hell for me. I won’t go ...

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3 Easy Steps to Being Diplomatic

Consider this: you’re talking with a colleague and they make a comment you’re not particularly in agreement with. In fact, you strongly disagree with them, but you don’t want to hurt your relationship with this colleague. You know that by disagreeing with them it might lead to conflict or worse, being unable to work with this person closely in the future. So, how do you proceed? I have had many years ...

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How we can help stop child abuse

Last week, I wrote about child abuse and how we need to put an end to it. It’s one of those topics that’s incredibly hard to talk about, but we can’t not talk about it simply because it’s too difficult. Even this week, another story has been shared in the media about some abuse another New Zealand child has suffered. This article came out a few days ago: Auckland man ...

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It’s time to put an end to Child Abuse!

I’ve read some horrific stories in the past about child abuse and murders. Now, I don’t know about you but, these stories are extremely difficult for me to read. They make me physically sick to my stomach. Often, I get quite upset and I sit in contemplation about how a person could harm such an innocent child. This week, my Grandfather shared this link with me: Man charged with murder of ...

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Pink Shirt Day: Let’s talk bullying

Today is Pink Shirt Day. It’s a day celebrated annually around the globe and began in Canada in 2007 when two students took a stand against homophobic bullying. In September last year, I wrote a post about my own personal experiences with bullying. You can read that post here. With Pink Shirt Day coming up, I re-shared my bullying post earlier this week. I also decided to share it amongst my ...

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Dare to Compete!

On Monday evening, I had the privilege of attending an event featuring Hillary Clinton. She was here in New Zealand to talk about resilience including her experiences in the previous elections, her journey so far and the lessons she’s learned throughout her life. I entered the event with uncertainty as to what she would be willing to discuss. I wasn’t sure how a woman with her experience would present herself, or ...

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Where do I start?

I’ve been watching Reign lately which is a television show based around Queen Mary of Scotland. The greatest thing I noticed about this show was that when the women supported each other, they were stronger. They achieved more, spoke more and appeared to feel more empowered. In a time dominated by men, where women had little power, it was quite inspiring to watch. Even though the stories on this show are ...

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The Power Struggle – What will you do to make it through?

Recently, I read an article about the 5 stages of a relationship. It talked about the stages that relationships go through. Where most relationships fail. And talks about how you can make it through and have a lasting relationship, if you’re both willing to work on it. You can read more about the 5 stages of a relationship here. I found the “power struggle stage” or “love hangover” very interesting. It’s ...

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Welcome to the Friendzone, Food

Dear Food, We’ve been together a long time now, 31 years to be exact. During this time, we’ve had some great memories, and some terrible ones too. Through the good times, and the bad, you’ve always been there for me. However, I’ve done some thinking and have made the hardest decision of my life. We need to stop. This relationship as we know it cannot continue. It really is me, not ...

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