We’ve all heard time and again how adults (especially ones in their thirties) need to stop travelling, settle down and get married.
Ben and I weren’t sure that we bought into those ideas- I mean, getting married was definitely for us… but settling down might never be. SoOo we’re going to try marriage with less of the ‘settling down’ part…
Meet the Wildes
My name is Jennifer Rose (or Jenn/ Jenny or Jenna depending on when & where I met you), and the fella you see in that picture is Ben.
We like each other- a lot. We knew straight away that this is a forever kind of thing, so we got married quickly. Then we got married once more on the opposite side of the earth, just for good measure.
After wrapping up wedding #2 we couldn’t really hide behind distraction anymore. Now it was time to figure out whatever comes next (which, for the record, I usually try to avoid at all costs).
I wasn’t really sure what being a wife meant, I based so much of my identity on being a solo traveller. I also thought that wives were supposed to be well mannered, grownup and sweet… so after we got married, I needed to redefine the title.
I might actually have thought that in order to be a good wife I had to quit being me-
-that I was expected to stop drifting around the planet
-that I needed to drop my male friends
-that drinking and dancing and staying up until all hours were completely off limits.
Most importantly I thought that I needed to:
get serious about work,
buy a house,
have a child,
and grow the eff up
…we tried some of those things and they didn’t work for us, so we’re trying something else. If you asked me the rules, I couldn’t tell you, but for now we’ve left behind our ‘real jobs’ and are creating a life with more time to do things we love.
Follow along if you ever feel like you’re unsure how to navigate the ‘rules of life’ – you’ll quickly learn that you’re not alone. x