That’s your problem, not mine

That’s it! I QUIT!

Alright, alright. I’m not quitting. Calm down. At least, not yet…

Although, there was a time a few years ago where I nearly did quit… I gave serious consideration to quitting professional wrestling forever. And I know now I would have regretted it. At the time however, I felt I had no other option.

I had a tendency to avoid conflict and to run away from difficult situations. And at the time, I was suddenly faced with one of those situations. Having just had a relationship break up, I was in a mix of emotions. Made even worse by the fact that the person I’d split with was also in the NZ wrestling scene, I knew I’d have to face them repeatedly and deal with this situation head on. I didn’t want to. I wanted anything but that.

So, I started to spiral into thoughts of quitting. I wasn’t sure who I had as support at the time and felt alone in the wrestling world. I felt like my place to be was anywhere but there. As I talked through this with a psychiatrist at the time, she said something to me that I have never forgotten. In fact, her words of wisdom have stuck by me ever since and it’s some of the best advice I’ve ever received.

I had told her, through a stream of tears, “I have to quit wrestling”. She asked why. I felt that was a stupid question. I mean, come on. If I stay, I have to face this situation and I don’t want to. It’s too hard. Just let me quit, woman. Geez! Alas, I said to her my reasons above, in a way I felt made sense. Expecting her to agree, I looked up at her in shock when she responded…

“SO!?” She said, “That’s his problem. Not yours!”’


“You love wrestling. Yes? It makes you happy. Don’t give up what you want. If it makes him uncomfortable, that’s his problem. Not yours.”

She was serious alright. Her face was stone cold serious. There was no arguing with that woman. And she was absolutely right. Wrestling did make me happy. Being in the ring was the best feeling in the world. So, with her words ringing through my ears, I proceeded to push through. In fact, that year, I did more wrestling than I’ve done in a long time. I had the best matches I’ve had in years. I made myself prouder than I’d ever been at what I could do in, out of and around the ring. Meeting new fans, wrestling legends and inspiring and training up and coming females to jump into the ring as well.

It was great. And to think I nearly quit. She also had said to me that we tend to regret the things we don’t do. And that too is absolutely correct. I have no regrets. I don’t even regret that relationship and the break up because I learned a lot from it, which have helped me become who I am today. I am stronger and better for having been through my experiences and knowing what I know now.

I use this lesson now a lot in life. Especially when I’m starting to feel anxious about something or when I know that others aren’t necessarily going to like what I do. Such as writing this blog. Sometimes, what I write might not be someone’s cup of tea. Or, it might offend or upset someone. I don’t set out to do so but if that happens, I remind myself that it’s their issue, not mine. I’m simply being me and doing what makes me happy. Living my life my way, with purpose and with passion.

Ain’t nothing wrong with that. Although, if you do have a genuine problem with me, or what I post, please feel free to chat to me directly. Hit me up via the contact page on this site or on social media. 

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